So a long, long time ago Camila, of Camila's Closet, tweeted me a link to this video.
If any woman reading this post tells me she can't relate...well sweetie you're lying.
The video may be extreme but we've all done that.
Why do we do this though?
What is so wrong with saying thank you or acknowledging a compliment?
Take for example this conversation I had with a coworker:
'Whitney, I love your curls! So much beautiful hair.'
'Oh....thank you. *shaking my head* It took me a long time to love this hair, its so crazy'
Wait, what?!?!?! Why did I have to throw that in there?
Or this conversation I overheard in line at lunch.
'Oh I LOVE that dress!'
'Ugh, it used to fit so much better before the baby.'
Umm...ok...that might be true...but why tell that?
So here is my theory. As a culture we are used to tearing people down. We do it on the daily. We read celeb magazine just to see what awful thing this weeks celebutante is wearing. We relish in the downfalls of politicians and socialites.(The 24/7 coverage of Paula Deen and Anthony Wiener anyone?) In a society of mean girls (and boys) isn't it easier to just beat them to the punch? On the flip side of that is the problem of the 'good girl'. Good girls are quiet and retiring. Good girls support others in the spotlight, they don't take it themselves. Good girls dress nicely, but not to call attention. Good girls, essentially, fade into the background.
You know what though? Good girls are polite. So the next time someone pays you a compliment? Say thank you and leave it at that. If you're feeling like being a bad ass though you should still say thank you. Throw them off their game like the girl in the video.
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