Thursday, February 28, 2013

And then I got frustrated....

OK I know I said I wasn't going to turn this into a divorce bog, and I wont.

I said I'm not going to bash JJ, and I won't.

I am however going to unload a little bit today.

Yesterday we attended a parenting seminar. A court ordered, two hour class all about 'putting the children first.' For two hours I sat there and listened to a very happy smiley woman instruct me not to talk badly about my co-parent.

To not discuss our personal lives with each other.

To avoid conflict in front of the child.
 
To take care of my own emotional needs, and not allow my child to parent me.

No! Really? I had to take two hours out of my day for this crap?!?!?!?! Essentially missing half a day of work to be told the most common sense bull crap ever. If you really didn't know this information beforehand you need a hell of a lot more than a two hour class.

And let's just touch on all the hoops you jump through to even get divorced.

To get married, you walk into a room, tell a person your name, show them your license and birth certificate and they hand you a piece of paper. You have to have that piece of paper signed by the officiant and two witnesses and BAM! Married.

To get divorced you have to file. And then have a hearing where you essentially meet the judge. Then you mediate temporary orders. Then you have this stupid class (thank you state of Ohio), then you'll have another hearing. This is the process for agreeable people. Heaven help you if you are contesting ANYTHING. If it was this difficult to get married, the divorce rate would be much lower.

I'm exhausted.

I filed back in October and I'm just so ready to be done.

Ok rant over.

4 comments:

Ami Church said...

Screw her and that stupid class.

And rant all you want! We're here to listen and support anyway we can.

xo

Karen Peterson said...

I'm sorry. That class sounds super lame and pointless. It's sad to think there are actually people out there who need it.

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Duke and June said...

At least they have the child's best interest in mind. I only wish my parents had to take this class when they got divorced.